Well, according to the current Mrs. Sumner a.k.a. Trudie Styler, they have a normal sex life like everyone else. In fact, Trudie has gone far enough to lambaste Bob Geldof for provoking Sting to divulge the sordid details of their love life during a drunken interview with a rock journalist 25 years ago.
Although the infamous tantric sex story will follow them to their graves, there can be no doubt that this is one of rock n roll’s most enduring unions. Trudie recollects the first time she ever laid eyes on Sting back in 1977.
“He was just walking down the street. He had green hair. I thought, I fancy that guy with green hair.”
Sting was married at the time. Him and his first wife lived two doors down from Trudie. Fast forward to 1983, Sting had left his wife for Trudie. Trudie was pregnant with their first child. In spite of their scandalous beginnings, their bond has endured almost forty years. So what is their secret?
Gordon Matthew Thomas Sumner or Sting as he was nicknamed by fellow band member Gordon Soloman because he wore a yellow and black striped sweater, was born on October 2, 1951 in Wallsend, England at 1:30 a.m.
It cannot come as a surprise that this musical maven has a stellium of Sun, Moon, Neptune and Saturn in Venus ruled Libra. Statistically it has been shown that men in the rock n roll industry tend to have a higher proportion of Venus ruled planets in their charts. Venus rules Taurus and Libra. Her domain is the arts, music, literature, romance and the beautifying of the planet in general. In Sting’s case this stellium accounts for that magnetic sex appeal that he oozes. He has a Moon/Neptune conjunction in the late degrees of Libra that amplify his drawing power. He is a fantasy figure for women. Lets face it, when he is crooning ‘Every Breathe You Take,’ women around the world are secretly wishing that he was their stalker.
Over the years Sting has received a good ribbing about the tantric sex story but it should be noted that Sting has a Mars/Venus conjunction with a Leo Mars and a Virgo Venus. This is a classic sexual aspect and he is someone with a very high sex drive. All jokes aside, he is not like his pal Bob Geldof, who admitted to being a three-minute man. Mars in Leo is known for endurance and stamina. That Mars is widely conjuncting Pluto which adds to the physical energy of that Mars. The first house or the Ascendant is the mask you project to the world. In Sting’s case he has a dramatic creative Leo Ascendant which accounts for his sinewy, feline-like appearance.
Trudie Styler was born January 6, 1954 in Bromsgrove, Enlgand. Her time of birth is unknown. In cases such as these a noon time chart is erected. Trudie has a powerful stellium of Sun, Venus and Mercury in driven, hard-working Capricorn. She herself has admitted to coming from humble beginnings being born in council housing. Yet, like all serious Capricorns with hard work and sheer determination she has become one of the most influential women in England. She is known for her connections in her little black book. She has a quirky, eccentric, Aquarius Moon. This is a woman who marches to the beat of her own drummer and does not follow anyone else’s lead. She owns her own film production company and is one of the lead organizers of the Rainforest Fund, which is hers and Sting’s pet project.
Both Trudie and Sting have revealed that they consider themselves extremely fortunate about their long-standing marriage which is an anomaly in rock n roll circles. How do they do it and what does their chemistry in their synastry say?
Although Trudie’s birth time is unknown it is probably a pretty good guess that she has an Aquarius Moon which is trining Sting’s Sun/Saturn conjunction in Libra. Sun/Moon connections amongst married couples is the glue that holds the relationship together because it is the balance of the yin and yang energies. It is also extremely helpful having moons in similar elements. Both Trudie and Sting have air moons which means they have similar emotional responses to their environment. Saturn trining your mate’s moon is a stabilizing factor that solidifies the relationship further. One could also guess that Trudie’s moon is probably hovering in the neighbourhood of Stings 7th house which is the house of partnerships and marriage. It is not uncommon to see the 7th house hosting one the partner’s luminaries. It is a classic marriage signature.
Trudie’s Neptune is conjuncting Sting’s Moon/Neptune conjunction which is a generational aspect because they are three years apart; yet it is a highly romantic and mutually intuitive signature. These are all very lovely aspects but it is not all a cake walk. Trudie’s earthy stellium in Capricorn is squaring Sting’s airy Libra stellium which means they don’t see eye to eye on a lot of things. Unfortunately, this square involves their Suns which can be difficult to deal with because egos get bruised. They also share a Moon/Uranus square which can be quite divisive at times.
They have some fairly nice sexual chemistry which soothes the tension of the harder configurations in their charts. Trudie’s Pluto is conjunct Sting’s Pluto/Mars conjunction again lending credibility to the scandalous tantric sex story. Trudie’s Venus in Capricorn is widely trining Sting’s Mars/Venus conjunction. They have a shared love of the same hobbies and causes. The trine is a much more harmonious aspect than either a conjunction or opposition. Trines go a long way to assist relationships and it is nice to see them in synastry. Her Capricorn Venus is opposing Sting’s Uranus in Cancer adding electricity to their union.
Not long ago, following an intimate gig, Sting revealed how friendship has been the key factor behind his long-standing marriage to Trudie. He was quoted saying,
“There’s no secret, we’re just lucky. We like each other actually. I don’t know how we stay so connected, we just are.”
Wherever there is that spirit of magnanimity and generosity in a relationship, Jupiter is never far behind. Trudie’s Jupiter in Gemini makes a lovely trine to Sting’s Moon/Neptune conjunction in Libra. Jupiter shines his kind benevolence wherever he sits. This is a truly fortunate aspect.
You can’t help but be in awe of a couple who has navigated the ups and downs of the rock n roll stormy seas. They are still going strong. These days when Sting is asked to comment on the notorious tantric sex tale, he will jokingly admit that “Seven hours includes a movie and dinner.”